A young girl was celebrating the first “decade” birthday of her life; she was turning 10! It was clearly an occasion that called for extra special observances. Some adult friends in her neighborhood decided to honor her by letting her know ten of the things they most appreciated about her. They got out the colored paper and markers and created a mobile (hanging from a plastic coat hanger) with a different appreciation on each hanging piece.

When they delivered the gift to the birthday girl, the neighbors and friends gathered around as she read each one out loud. Her mom was secretly a bit concerned that this gift would pale in comparison to shiny new games and craft kits, that it would be seen as too handmade. But that night the now 10-year-old asked to have the mobile hung in her bedroom where she could read it each night before she went to sleep…..”you are a good athlete,” “you’re a great neighbor,” “you’re funny”…….

Each of us has the opportunity this month, on February 14, Valentine’s Day, to honor those we love. Perhaps with flowers, perhaps with chocolates, but perhaps with a list of the ways we appreciate them! “Happy Valentine’s Day! Here are 10 (or 12 or 20 or 50) things I appreciate about you:” Once we begin to focus on someone we love, that list of appreciations can often go on and on and on.

Now, here is the most important part of this month’s practice of peace: No matter who else receives your message of appreciation, one list of appreciations is to yourself. “Dear (your name). Here are the 50 (or 75 or 100) things I appreciate about you. You are an excellent cook. You show up when asked to participate. You love animals. You are generous.........”

Take the time. Make the effort. Experience the results in your body, mind, emotions. Thank yourself for your kindness. Then put your list where you can read it every day.

“Practicing compassionate acceptance is like being in love and seeing the face of the beloved in every moment as if for the first time.” Cheri Huber