I sent a “Really Good Person” cap to a dear friend with this instruction: If she did not feel comfortable wearing it in public, she had to come to a Zen retreat and explain to Cheri why not. Turns out she not only had no problem wearing it (must have been some projection on my part…) but added a whole new dimension to it. At a big picnic, she wore it for a while, enjoying the comments she received. Then she put it on somebody else, with the request that that person wear it and pass it on to another person, with the same request. And so the cap made the rounds, and a marvelous time was had by all. Except for one person who was unable to wear it — alas, I was not present to invite him to a Zen retreat, but maybe his karma will lead him in the right direction.